Wedding Nerves...about 2 years early!

My fiancé and I went to a wedding show yesterday at Bluewater shopping centre (well, the new event centre there). It was, well, mind blowing and confusing. I really enjoyed it while I was there, getting ideas for cakes, colour schemes, wedding dresses, venues, favours, flowers etc etc. It really helped us decide what we want.
We want a venue where you have the civil ceremony as well as the meal and the reception. I really don’t think I could do a church wedding. I am not religious, and I don’t think I could hack going to church every Sunday for 6 months, putting up with the hymns and the teachings and the fact that God is to blame for everything. When I was there, I just felt like I was being brain-washed if I’m honest, brain-washed into believing that we are all children of God and he is amazing and great bla bla bla (I apologise if anyone reading is religious, I really don’t mean any offense. This is just my opinion!)
So it was all jolly and fun and exciting, but I got home, my mum started talking to me about it, and I just broke down in tears. I got all angry and frustrated about it, saying that I can’t be bothered to get married, it’s too much of a hassle and I can’t think straight about anything. I don’t know what went through me! Maybe it’s nerves...two years in advance! My wonderful fiancé came to the rescue, just laughed and said I was silly (in a cute, non nasty way) and how he will always love me and he can’t wait to marry me. So that put me in a better mood, and we got talking about it.
We want to now go to a wedding show in Essex (as that is where we live) to see what beautiful venues there are around the county. I know what sort of dress I want similar to these:

 http://www.weddingdresses.uk.com/

See, where I am so darn small (5ft) I can't have anything too poofy or fussy. I love the simple, elegant sleek look of the dress, and I think that will be easier to amend to my height. We want our bridesmaids and colour accents to be a dark red,

and the flowers to incorporate roses, gerberas and other things! The colour scheme in my head is white, red and possibly hmm...dark green? 

Not sure on the third colour yet, if there is one! I know that I want a starry dance floor, and a “groovy booth” – a photo booth that you hire for 4 hours, it takes 4 different pictures, and it prints four copies, one for your friends to keep and one that you can put into a guest book for people to sign underneath. Oh and we want a live band, not a DJ. I love that idea. It is mine and no-one else can have it hehe =P.
That’s all I have so far – dark red and white colour scheme, dress style, venue type, flowers, and entertainment types. I think that’s’ quite good for a couple of years in advance. 2014 is my aim. 2013 is my aim for us to buy a house. 2014 is when I want to get married. Hopefully in April or May. Maybe March if it is warm! That will need discussing!
AGHHH!