Wednesday, 8 February 2012

Valentines Day

So Valetines Day is looming, and people are groaning and moaning and whining about it. Especially those who are single.
I am a little aprehensive with this day. Although I am engaged, I think maybe, sometimes this day of love is possibly worse for us loved up couples than single people. Let me explain....

If you're single, you don't have a high expecatation that anything is going to happen. Correct me if I'm wrong, but you're only really hoping that when you come into work/school or wherever that morning, there will be a card or flowers or something sitting there, letting you know that you're admired secretly. 
If there is nothing there, you may feel a little downhearted, but nothing will become of it. Maybe just hate the day more. You will continue with your life/colleagues/friends/crush as normal.

If, however, you're in a relationship, I'm guessing, like me, you're expecting some big, romantic gesutre from your partner, so you can feel loved and warm and fuzzy. It's expected of your partners to give you a card, present, meal etc.
If this does not happen, it can result in resentment, anger and misery. And it will last longer than one day. It will last a week, maybe even a year until the next day comes around. You complain that the partner didn't do anything, why didn't he/she do anything for you, it's valentines day. You compare your day with someone elses "oh, but so-and-so's partner did all these wonderful romantic things, and you couldn't even be bothered to write a card", thinking maybe that their relationship is better than yours.
You then feel somewhat un-loved (may be a little extreme), but a maybe little less wanted all the same. It then is blown out of proportion (usually by women), by them esculating the non-romantic gesture on one day to "you never do anything romantic for me". 
This whole day, if not done in the right way, or not at all, can cause a problem in relationships. 

See the difference? 
That's how I feel anyway. When I was single, I was excited for valentines, there was a little glimmer of hope that maybe I would get to school, a valentines day card would be there posted into my locker (there were on a couple of occasions, I still to this day have no idea who they were from!) 
But when I didn't, I was like "ohhh. oh. Ah well"

Now, I am totally expecting lots of things from my fiance this year, as I have previous years and in future years to come. 
Yay for Valentines Day...(if I get lots of presents :P)


CupcakeMumma said...

I've never thought of it like that, well I probably have..on the day! I think you're probably very right there though!
Hope you don't mind, I wrote a little post for 'The Sunshine award and mentioned you. Wanted to mention you in it :) Hannah x

Jenni said...

I know, me neither, It was only this year where I've been around a lot of single people that I thought "well, it's not too bad really!"
I don't mind at all, that's really lovely you to mention me! I'm glad I make good reading for you =] xx