So Valetines Day is looming, and people are groaning and moaning and whining about it. Especially those who are single.
I am a little aprehensive with this day. Although I am engaged, I think maybe, sometimes this day of love is possibly worse for us loved up couples than single people. Let me explain....
If you're single, you don't have a high expecatation that anything is going to happen. Correct me if I'm wrong, but you're only really hoping that when you come into work/school or wherever that morning, there will be a card or flowers or something sitting there, letting you know that you're admired secretly.
If there is nothing there, you may feel a little downhearted, but nothing will become of it. Maybe just hate the day more. You will continue with your life/colleagues/friends/crush as normal.
If, however, you're in a relationship, I'm guessing, like me, you're expecting some big, romantic gesutre from your partner, so you can feel loved and warm and fuzzy. It's expected of your partners to give you a card, present, meal etc.
If this does not happen, it can result in resentment, anger and misery. And it will last longer than one day. It will last a week, maybe even a year until the next day comes around. You complain that the partner didn't do anything, why didn't he/she do anything for you, it's valentines day. You compare your day with someone elses "oh, but so-and-so's partner did all these wonderful romantic things, and you couldn't even be bothered to write a card", thinking maybe that their relationship is better than yours.
You then feel somewhat un-loved (may be a little extreme), but a maybe little less wanted all the same. It then is blown out of proportion (usually by women), by them esculating the non-romantic gesture on one day to "you never do anything romantic for me".
This whole day, if not done in the right way, or not at all, can cause a problem in relationships.
See the difference?
That's how I feel anyway. When I was single, I was excited for valentines, there was a little glimmer of hope that maybe I would get to school, a valentines day card would be there posted into my locker (there were on a couple of occasions, I still to this day have no idea who they were from!)
But when I didn't, I was like "ohhh. oh. Ah well"
Now, I am totally expecting lots of things from my fiance this year, as I have previous years and in future years to come.
Yay for Valentines Day...(if I get lots of presents :P)